Recently one of friends was discussing something with me and told me "I can't do it". I thought about it for a while and told him that there are two things - "You can't do it" and "You don't want to do it". Now tell which of the two is applicable to you.
Sometime later I had a similar discussion with some of my other friends and realized that people don't differentiate between the two things. So I thought of trying to write about it. I may not be right altogether as there might be situations where indeed there isn't anything that can be done; and for that matter everytime you want to do something you may not be able to do it. But my point is you should have the desire and try.
There is an old proverb which says that "Shoe pinches the one who wears it". This is true but have you ever seen the person himself repair the same? I guess the answer is NO. It is the cobler who repairs the shoe according to what the person says. The same can be applied to the problems people face in life. They have friends to take suggestions from. Not everyone gives the correct or appropriate suggestions but they do give suggestions. You may not take every suggestion but it gives you different viewpoints and often you find that you hadn't thought of it in that way. Discussing helps you see the same thing from different angles and you can reach a decision by considering a lot more options than before.
Everything doesn't appear the same to everyone nor does everyone interprets a thing in the same way. Every person has got his own thought process and sees things accordingly. It also happens that given a thing people look at different parts of it and often totally ignore some parts. This is true everywhere and in everything. This is why people talk to each other and discussions take place.
My idea of writing this post is to make people understand the difference between "I can't" and "I don't want". People always look for the easier way out and try and do things quickly and with least effort required. People don't look at things the way the things were meant to be looked at but look at it in their own way which may not be the correct way.
People before saying "I can't" should think again whether they really can't do it or they do not want to do it. If they do not want to do it then there's nothing that can be done. But if they want to do it but think that they can't do it then they are wrong. Every problem has a solution. Once you are determined to solve a problem you will find the solution. The solution may not be an easy one and may not be found easily; the solution may not be something that you like; but there has to be a solution. And once you accept the fact that there is a solution you will find it sooner rather than later. And to solve the problem you may have to do something that you don't like - at that point you will have to decide if want to solve the problem or let it remain.
My point is - don't give up; TRY. Try things by weighing the options and having an idea as to where this would lead to. See the results after some duration to see if you are heading the right way; if not then reform the startegy and start moving once again.
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1 comment:
"Your point" of TRYing seems redundant.. since it seems, rightly so, from the arguement that everything can be achieved provided you want it "badly" enough. Then if soemone doesnt try to do something and stops trying doesnt it implictly imply that he doesnt want it that bad.
'I cant' and 'I dont want' are just superficial responses and the person himself is always aware of the truth inside. It is this internal knowledge, which is ultimately going to to govern his action.
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