Many of my friends are getting/got married these days. It is a good occasion for the get togethers with old pals and also makes us think how the life will unfold for the person taking the plunge into marriage. Sometimes I wonder if time has come for me to get married as well but that feeling goes soon saying "you will know when it is time so don't bother". And I guess the time hasn't come yet and I still have many days left to enjoy before I get caught in the web of marriage.
But marriage is not something that's going on in my mind rather things related to marriage are; especially the invitation part. When one is getting married he/she invites people by calling them and giving them the invitation card. I personally think that invitation card (physical and not the emailed one) is an important aspect of the invitation. A person who wants you to come will go the distance of giving you the invitation card and inviting you formally. A few of my friends though disagree with me saying things like - "ecard is good enough", "a phone call is all is needed" or some even say that "dost ki shaadi hai - invitation ki zarurat hi nahi hai" (it is the marriage of a afriend - who needs an invitation). Sounds good - right? I thought about it. And when I asked the same person "Why didn't you come to XYZ's marriage", they reply "s/he didn't invite me". That surprises me and the arguement goes on to close friends and all - it leaves me confused as to whther it is hypocricy or people just say so for the heck of it.
What I believe is some occasions need a formal invitation and people need to go the distance to show that they care and that they would indeed like the presence of their friends. It can be difficult to manage sometimes; but then even in difficulty the things that matter are taken care of. So if this certain thing (giving the invitation card) seems unmanagable it leaves a thought in my mind whether I am actually invited or its just a formality from the other side. The point I am trying to make here is if you are friends, there are times when you got to show that you are important. Marriage is one such occasion; a very important occasion for a person (a very close friend of mine says - "marriage is the biggest gamble of one's life") and according to me it warranties a person to go the distance of making the people close to him/her wanted. A card is a very small thing but it carries a lot of weight. They say - to keep a relationship you need to work towards it.
People will have different opinions and takes on this but when it comes to me I always say - "I will need a physical invitation card to come". And I believe most of the people who feel my presence is important to them will actually give me a card; most people have done so far. There are exceptions I make occasionally to this rule but in those occasions I feel kind of unwanted.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Monday, February 2, 2009
Everything has a proper time and place
I have a habit of forwarding mails. One such forwards was titled "How many other things are we missing out on?". An exert from the said forward -
"In a curious experiment initiated by Washington Post columnist Gene Weingarten, Bell donned a baseball cap and played as an incognito street busker at the Metro subway station L'Enfant Plaza in Washington, D.C. on January 12, 2007. The experiment was videotaped on hidden camera; among 1,097 people who passed by, only seven stopped to listen to him, and only one recognized him. For his nearly 45-minute performance, Bell collected $32.17 from 27 passersby (excluding $20 from the passerby who recognized him).Weingarten won the 2008 Pulitzer Prize for feature writing for his article on the experiment.
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?"
One of the replies that I got for this mail was -
"Galat jagah par galat samay par kaam karenge toe aisaa hi hoga. Har cheez apne samay par hi acchee lagee hai.
School ke time par TV serial kitna bhi knowedgeable kyon naa ho… bacche ko school hi jaanaa chaahiye. Serial toe ½ hrs mai khatam ho jaayega. Par school poore din ka gaya…"
This translates to something like "Doing wrong things at wrong times at wrong places will lead to this. There's a proper time for everything. Children have to go to school in the morning even if a informative TV show is being telecasted."
I had been acknowledging the brilliant mail - how true it is that in performing our daily chores we miss so many small moments of joy and happiness; in being totally focussed on our routine lives we miss the beauty of the nature and the time to spend on things we like. Then all of a sudden I got this response and I was forced to think in this different line of thought. And I had no way of denying the essense of the response - everything has a proper time and place; and things done out of place and at an improper time will usually go unacknowledged and unnoticed.
Maybe that's the reason why giving advise to people who are upset or angry doesn't yield proper results; maybe that's why all major tournament finals are scheduled on Sundays; and maybe that's the reason why movies are released on Fridays.
"In a curious experiment initiated by Washington Post columnist Gene Weingarten, Bell donned a baseball cap and played as an incognito street busker at the Metro subway station L'Enfant Plaza in Washington, D.C. on January 12, 2007. The experiment was videotaped on hidden camera; among 1,097 people who passed by, only seven stopped to listen to him, and only one recognized him. For his nearly 45-minute performance, Bell collected $32.17 from 27 passersby (excluding $20 from the passerby who recognized him).Weingarten won the 2008 Pulitzer Prize for feature writing for his article on the experiment.
One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:
If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?"
One of the replies that I got for this mail was -
"Galat jagah par galat samay par kaam karenge toe aisaa hi hoga. Har cheez apne samay par hi acchee lagee hai.
School ke time par TV serial kitna bhi knowedgeable kyon naa ho… bacche ko school hi jaanaa chaahiye. Serial toe ½ hrs mai khatam ho jaayega. Par school poore din ka gaya…"
This translates to something like "Doing wrong things at wrong times at wrong places will lead to this. There's a proper time for everything. Children have to go to school in the morning even if a informative TV show is being telecasted."
I had been acknowledging the brilliant mail - how true it is that in performing our daily chores we miss so many small moments of joy and happiness; in being totally focussed on our routine lives we miss the beauty of the nature and the time to spend on things we like. Then all of a sudden I got this response and I was forced to think in this different line of thought. And I had no way of denying the essense of the response - everything has a proper time and place; and things done out of place and at an improper time will usually go unacknowledged and unnoticed.
Maybe that's the reason why giving advise to people who are upset or angry doesn't yield proper results; maybe that's why all major tournament finals are scheduled on Sundays; and maybe that's the reason why movies are released on Fridays.
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