Many of my friends are getting/got married these days. It is a good occasion for the get togethers with old pals and also makes us think how the life will unfold for the person taking the plunge into marriage. Sometimes I wonder if time has come for me to get married as well but that feeling goes soon saying "you will know when it is time so don't bother". And I guess the time hasn't come yet and I still have many days left to enjoy before I get caught in the web of marriage.
But marriage is not something that's going on in my mind rather things related to marriage are; especially the invitation part. When one is getting married he/she invites people by calling them and giving them the invitation card. I personally think that invitation card (physical and not the emailed one) is an important aspect of the invitation. A person who wants you to come will go the distance of giving you the invitation card and inviting you formally. A few of my friends though disagree with me saying things like - "ecard is good enough", "a phone call is all is needed" or some even say that "dost ki shaadi hai - invitation ki zarurat hi nahi hai" (it is the marriage of a afriend - who needs an invitation). Sounds good - right? I thought about it. And when I asked the same person "Why didn't you come to XYZ's marriage", they reply "s/he didn't invite me". That surprises me and the arguement goes on to close friends and all - it leaves me confused as to whther it is hypocricy or people just say so for the heck of it.
What I believe is some occasions need a formal invitation and people need to go the distance to show that they care and that they would indeed like the presence of their friends. It can be difficult to manage sometimes; but then even in difficulty the things that matter are taken care of. So if this certain thing (giving the invitation card) seems unmanagable it leaves a thought in my mind whether I am actually invited or its just a formality from the other side. The point I am trying to make here is if you are friends, there are times when you got to show that you are important. Marriage is one such occasion; a very important occasion for a person (a very close friend of mine says - "marriage is the biggest gamble of one's life") and according to me it warranties a person to go the distance of making the people close to him/her wanted. A card is a very small thing but it carries a lot of weight. They say - to keep a relationship you need to work towards it.
People will have different opinions and takes on this but when it comes to me I always say - "I will need a physical invitation card to come". And I believe most of the people who feel my presence is important to them will actually give me a card; most people have done so far. There are exceptions I make occasionally to this rule but in those occasions I feel kind of unwanted.
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