Being in the situation - An Encounter

Things look so different when you are actually in the situation. This may sound cliche but it is true. I am not saying this because I have been through something similar (I must admit that I have been in one situation recently) but because there are times when you just can't act the practical (read suggested) way. Its not that you don't want to do it; its just that you can't do it - can't here doesn't mean that you actually can't do it but it means you don't feel like doing it. (Quite confusing isn't it - but I believe you have understood :P)

Some scenarios could be leading a normal life after a break-up (this isn't the reason I am writing this blog ;)), returning to football field after having broken your leg while playing football, saying no to something a beautiful girl asks you to do when you wouldn't have done it for anyone else, getting up early for some workout, spending time learning something on a holiday, etc.
All of the above are some scenarios when you don't do what you should ideally do but give in to the situation which - if you ask me - is perfectly fine as long as you don't regret doing it later. The reason I say this is that there are times when people have to decide; and at these times they either chose to do something or not to do them. The situations and choices keep coming - many a times people don't even realize that they had an option to chose as they just go through the flow, which is fine I guess.

So what brings me here to write this blog? It happens to be an ENCOUNTER. Encounter not in the real meaning but an encounter here means meeting your prospective bride/groom :). The term is not coined by me but is unanimously used in my friend circle. And yes I happened to have an encounter about a month back.
Now I am not going to talk about the details of the encounter but I will talk about something else. A lot of my friends are going through this phase and I am helping them find their right partner. Guiding them hasn't been that difficult as I always thought it is not that difficult to judge if he/she is the right person. In fact I had planned the way mine would go if any happened. But when the time actually came all my plans were left wanting; not because they were not planned well but because when I was in that situation I was caught in a hurricane of thoughts. And the thoughts revolved around things that I hadn't deemed that important earlier but at that moment it all took top priority.
Being in the situation really made the things look different. I knew this but never thought it could be so different... and that too with me. But I guess I was wrong and this encounter made me realize this.

What is it with night?......and with Mornings?

I have observed this happen many a times but haven't been able to figure out why this happens. There's got to be some reason but I haven't been able to reason it out.

Why is it that at night your mind is full of different thoughts but in the morning almost all are gone? At night your mind goes through all the incidents of the day; even to days before today - in fact sometimes way back. You remember all the things you always wanted to do, the things you forgot to do and things you could have done better. Your mind starts making sense from un-attached events and tries to form a pattern; as if it was a movie. You feel as if everything was planned and you are just acting it out; which incidentally might be true.

So what all does the mind go through? There's nothing specific that the mind goes through but its a host of a hell lot of things depending upon your mood and how the day has gone.
For instance if you had a bad day at office then your mind goes through the entire sequence of events step by step. It analyzes all the events that had occurred, tries to find a pattern in it and also tries to find how differently things could have been done.
If you had a fight with a friend you again start going through the entire sequence and do an analysis of the entire thing. You tend to criticize yourself or your friend depending upon how your nature is. You also have a decision to make as to whether you should start talking to him or if you should wait for your friend to take the first step. By this time you have an entire list of pros & cons for both sides.

Also at night you are all geared up to formulate plans for the next days. You are all gung-ho to start something new or to start doing things you always wanted to do but never started doing; sometimes you realize your mistakes and make it a point to apologize to certain people; sometime you remember old friends and decide to catch up with them the next day; so on and so forth.
But come morning and everything you planned is gone. You had decided to wake up early and exercise but alas you wake up late. You had decided to call your friends but now you decide against it or postpone it. You had decided to jot down a plan for you but now you don't feel like doing that - in fact you can't even remember the things you had planned.

I wonder at times what is it that a night does to you - its somehow always better to speak to your friends/dear ones; its almost always much more fun to have night-out with friends than any other time; its easier for most people to study at night; its makes it better when you watch movies at night; and so on.
It seems that nights give you the desire or maybe the experience to do things right - it could be related to the end of a journey when you experience the things that went wrong and/or could have been done in a better way. And similarly a morning is like a start of the journey where you think of taking things as they come. Or maybe you feel its just the start and you will have plenty of time to correct things if they go wrong.