"Woh afsana jisey anjam tak lana na ho mumkin, Usey ik khoobsurat mod de kar chorna achha"

Recently read 4 lines of Sahir Ludhiyanvi which goes like -

"Taa'ruf rog ban jaye to us ko bhoolna behtar
Ta'aluq bojh ban jaye to us ka torna acha
Woh afsana jisey anjam tak lana na ho mumkin
Usey ik khoobsurat mod de kar chorna achha"
I came across it while reading a book (not a book on shayri); will discuss about the book maybe in some future post. The books not the point here but the sher (if you call it a sher).

How apt are the lines especially the last 2 lines; in fact I was stuck in these lines for some seconds before I could move on. It made me think if everyone starts following this maybe there would be lot less pain in the world. There have been lots of heart breaks happening around and the most common things that I hear is "If he/she knew it from the beginning why did s/he get this far", "It was so nice and now suddenly his/her parents don't want us to be together. I don't want him/her to go against his/her parents but ...". Some of my friends have ven spoken to me about this and I would always say them "Give it your best shot and then feel good that you tried your best. Whatever the outcome face it and move ahead". And then when I read these (the sher) words I wondered if this was the best way to summarize it all. (In fact I was tempted to try my hands in shaiyri - not that this is the first time I have thought so - but I would save you that for the time being :)). There goes another thought on the similar lines which says something like - "Don't regret that it is over but smile coz it happened". Easier said than done - isn't it? In fact if you happen to do a survey 99% of those who have faced the situation will say it is good to read but impossible to follow while those who haven't faced such situation yet would say it is the practical thing to do. I am not going to blame them for this because it is very difficult to let go. But somehow I happen to believe in the 1% (or you can call it 2%). It is indeed the most practical thing to do; besides dragging it or not comming of it will only bring unhappiness.

Being a true libran that I am (most of the people who know me say so) let me bring in a counter argument which majority of the 99% will agree to. If you know fromt he very beginning that it won't be possible (read feasable) to be together why start it in the first place. And if it happens that you didn't realize that you have come close but this won't last forever why didn't you stop at that moment. Then one could as well say "Nothings impossible you are not brave enough to do it". And you tend to agree to this depending mainly on whose side you are; and sometimes how rebellious you are (that just came to my mind). And sometimes (if not many times) it is indeed true that people don't go to the extent they should which hurts even more.

Now to take sides or rather to put forth my views I very much agree to the sher. In fact I always say "Have no regrets". You did things because you wanted to do those and if that scenario comes again you would probabaly do the same. So why regret. And in the matters of the heart there is a bigger picture to look at. Its not always lack of courage that makes the person decide on not living together. Marriage needs to take care of lots of things and not just love. The plain fact that proves this is love marriages are more prone to divorces (don't ask me the source as I don't have any and I still call it a fact). All I would say is marriage is not the only destination for love.
If you tell me "you are just like those guys..." I would say "I am not him and I did no wrong to you". If you tell me "you don't know how it feels as you haven't been in that situation" and I will reply "One doesn't need to touch the fire to see that it burns". If you tell me "you can let go things easily but not everyone can" I would say "Everyone can; its just that either they don't know they can or they don't want to".

Just now I saw the preview of this post and it seems quite long. I guess its time to stop now. And I won't go back to edit the post as I have written the things as they came to my mind and I believe it should stay the way it has shaped up although I do get a feeling that it wasn't the way I had expected it to shape up when I started writing.